As Told By Caroline

Update

2012-01-22T19:14:00.001-08:00

I’m reading this book:

I’m taking a graduate class from this school:

My OneWord365 is:

Character

I like this quote:

I’m looking forward to visiting:

It’s a New Year!

2012-01-03T17:34:00.001-08:00

No your eyes aren’t playing tricks on you, after a nearly two months hiatus—I’m back!

The holidays are over and although we were “glad to see them come” we were equally “glad to see them go” (borrowed quote from my Papa, who these same sentiments to describe his feelings about visits from relatives).
At the close of the year Matthew and I had lots to reflect on. It wasn’t that this year was necessarily a bad year, in fact, we had a pretty great year (bought a house, ran a half marathon, promotions, etc.). What made 2011 so difficult was that so many people around us were in the midst of life-changing obstacles. In most cases there was nothing we could do to change the situation, but it didn’t stop us from wishing things were different. At the same time we have had to learned that difficult situations are sometimes the best (and only) teachers.

I think I am still processing a lot of the lessons of 2011. But one thing I didn’t have to process at all was that I was relieved to have the opportunity for a new start. Not just for myself, but for everyone I know that wished 2011 would have turned out a little (or a lot) differently.
As for resolutions. I have one.

1. I want more moments like this.

On another non-resolution (but slightly related) note I want to identify one word to define my year. I got the idea from this site OneWord365 and I think it’s a great.

I need some time to think about what my word will be, but I will be sure to update as soon as I have it. See, I already have a topic for my next post, so I’ll definitely be back!

Hasta luego.

November

2011-11-25T18:34:00.001-08:00

What a month you’ve been November! Changes, victories, accomplishments, and stepping out into the great unknown. I’m hitting the highlights of this month but I hope to update more often in December—we shall see…

I won a scholarship. Matthew passed a Microsoft certification test.

I was offered a new, and completely unfamiliar position at my company. Matthew is learning some new skills to add to his existing genius.

I ate some good meals. Matthew did too.

I finished a Thanksgiving Day 5K. Matthew got to sleep in.

We put up our Christmas tree, and BOTH avoided all Black Friday crowds.

I’m attempting to keep this post short, but if there’s one thing that I could not have gone without this November it would be the support and love of the most generous, kind, and thoughtful husband on the planet.

Thank you for keeping our home peaceful and encouraging me in the chaos of this month.

I love you!

Memory [Card] Lane

2011-10-13T17:18:00.001-07:00

This post is written in honor of my old Verizon touch screen phone. She was finally laid to rest yesterday in a bubbled wrapped lined manila envelope. She will be returning to the place from which she came (I will be receiving a $100 Verizon gift card—sweet!).

I am learning to love again as I have replaced old phone with an Iphone (yes, I am still in awe). I felt it was proper to pay homage to my trusty cell phone of the past 2 years with this little montage of extremely random pictures of all good times we had together.

This picture actually predates my old phone, but I sent it to my old phone from my old old phone. This was Matthew in his bachelor days—he’s thankful I rescued him!

A musty picture of Lake Julian pier. Date and time unknown.

A picture of my friend Mallory’s name in the graduation pamphlet. Hurray Mallory!!

Our first apartment and HUGE snow! 2009.

Memories from my days at UNCA. To the left a classic UNCA college T-shirt. To the right the actual computer I used to document research.

The cutest and smartest little girl that I had the pleasure of babysitting. 2009-2010.

This picture is from May 2010 when I walked into the office of Earth Fare for my first “real” job interview. The ceiling lights on the elevator were amazing and if I didn’t get the job I at least wanted to remember how cool the elevator was.

I got the job! This was my first office space!

The memory of the shattered glass door….and the basketball coach campaign.

Church in Motion on location in Asheville, NC. Our first venue was an old church building in downtown.

Winter in our new apartment 2010.

Christmas Tree apartment 2010. Annual reunion Christmas party. Excitement!!

Early 2011 RITA’s opened in Asheville. Grand Opening Matthew won a gallon of Italian ice….which we never finished.

Our house we dreamed up March/April 2011.

Settler's of Catan. Game Nights! 2011

Our friends on the cover of a local magazine!

Ramble Run 12K. My first “real” race.

Asheville Citizen Times Half Marathon. 2011

Baby Juliet Born Sept. 19 2011.

The past two years have flown by. Glad I at least capture some of the moments that made me smile—even if they were completely random!

Mission Accomplished!

2011-09-18T17:44:00.001-07:00

Back in May I finished my 1st 12K race (see the “proof” here). After the race I got the crazy idea to run a Half-Marathon. With some encouragement from my running pal and best amiga Lara. I decided that it just might be possible.

So I trained. I ran up mountains, and hills, through trails, and parks I even had a run-in with a black bear. The funny thing about distance running is that you have to allot for a significant amount of time if you going to run a significant amount of miles. Between moving into a new house, traveling, work, and a number of other time zappers my running schedule was mediocre at best. Despite my best efforts I was never able to free up more than an hour and a half to run and the longest I ever made time to run was 10 miles.

The morning of race day I was apprehensive. I wasn’t even sure I could run 13.1 miles, much less run the infamous hills of the Asheville Citizen-Times Half Marathon.

My only goal: to finish the race, and not to stop running.

My company was a sponsor of the race so I proudly sported our shirts!

Matthew came as my biggest fan, and documented the entire event.

I ran with a water fueling belt so that I wouldn’t have to stop for water at the water stations. It worked really well and helped me not to slow down. I also filled it up with jelly beans and energy fruit snacks for a quick power boost. Thanks mom and Bekah!

The race was huge. Over 1,200 people ran the half marathon.

But despite the turn out there could only be ONE PERSON to finish in 710th place and that person was ME!

Ok, the number might not sound impressive to you but what it means to me is that I finished a Half Marathon in 2 hours and 4 minutes. That’s 9.27 minute miles! A personal best!

As impressed as I was with my own results my friend Lara’s race results tops it all.
She finished the 5K in under 40 minutes 9 months pregnant and greeted me at the finish line.

And there you have it—I reach the finish line and more importantly reached a goal that I wasn’t even sure was attainable. I am thankful for the ability to run and the support and encouragement that I had the whole way through.

Mission Accomplished.

It’s Official!

2011-09-06T17:35:00.001-07:00

Hello World of Home Ownership, we have arrived!

Wednesday August 31st was a big day! We closed on our very own house!
This is us just minutes before meeting with the lawyer.

Leaving the law firm…

And of course, after signing all the papers we drove directly over to our new house.
This picture was taken before we even walked through the doors.

Unbelievably it’s been almost a week since we closed on our house. Our out of town family and friends are going to lose it if we don’t post pictures soon.

SO…here is the empty house tour. Fortunately we’ve got most everything unpacked now, but I’ll save the furnished house pictures for another post.

Welcome to our home!

Front door entrance/dinning room.

Living Room

Kitchen—my most favorite part!

Our island was goofed up and backwards we fixed it, don’t worry.

It’s hard to explain how happy I am about the pantry! FOOD SPACE!

Garage entrance/exit and a view of the garage.

Downstairs half bath

Upstairs/downstairs view

Spare room and closet

Washer/dryer room Office Room

Master bedroom

Master bathroom. You can’t see it here but that’s TWO sinks! Woo!!

The big move took place Saturday and now we are in unpacking mode. More pictures to come, but in the meantime check out how far we’ve come.

Wanna see all our posts?

Check our the first house post here, our house framework here, our house with sides here and our final walk through here.

Stay tuned as we turn our house into a home!
House + furniture pictures coming soon!

Welcome Home!

2011-08-21T17:37:00.001-07:00

Yes! I am posting twice in one day. Only because I am SO excited and we’re almost at the end of our “building phase” so I want to make sure we’ve documented as much as possible.

We’ve packed a few boxes this weekend and Matthew and are I ready to fall in love with our new home.

I snagged a few pictures this afternoon and I thought I would share:

Here is our front porch light. I love the speckled glass.

We’re still waiting on the carpet and obviously the floors are still under construction but I love how this room opens up into the kitchen.

And we got the first glimpse of our new kitchen cabinets and granite counter tops.
I’m really impressed with how well these turned out.

Here’s a close up of the granite. I think a blue/grey wall color will bring out the bold color of the cabinets.

Finally I am documenting for the records the marking of our underground electrical wiring just in case we get the urge to dig we’ll know where not to break ground.

Stick around there are more pictures to come!
T-minus 10 days until closing that there’s lots of work to be done!

Our House!

2011-08-21T17:10:00.001-07:00

It finally feels REAL that we are going to be homeowners in a few short weeks. This week we have a FINAL walk through and let me tell you are are SO EXCITED!

Can’t get this song out of my head….

A Splash of Color

2011-08-09T17:56:00.001-07:00

For the majority of the last two years our married world living arrangements have consisted of white walls and very little color. Painting wasn’t an option in apartment world and art was never really a priority.

I noticed tonight that over the past few months we have boldly stepped into the world of color and art. So I thought I would share with you some of my favorite (and not so favorite) pieces.

1. Count Your Blessings Jar –I love love love this little jar!
My mom bought it for us for our anniversary. The top is made of corkscrew material and the vase is obviously pottery. I have been adding the names of friends or family members to the jar as a reminder of all my many “blessings”. Matthew and I hope to pull a name every so often and use it as an opportunity to pray for God’s blessing over that person and their family.

2. Asheville Skyline—Oh, Asheville. Although I never imagined I would be living in my hometown after being married and getting a real job. I have to say that this town is still full of surprises. When mom and I went to the Biltmore Village Craft Fair this weekend and I saw this little picture of downtown Asheville I knew that this was not just a piece of art but a memory of a town that holds so many treasured moments of my life. This particular painting was done by Jeff Pitman, local Asheville artist and oil painter. As you can see the painting is still in wrapper form. In the end I’m hoping to find a really unique way to display the mini version of the world’s coolest home town.

3.I’m not an artist TAKE ONE—There are plenty of ways to tell you “I can’t paint” but what better way than to display this humble little reminder on my wall. My canvas catastrophe was created at Paint and Mingle with a group of ladies from Church In Motion. We had a great time, but this painting still reminds me of something I would have made in 3rd grade. It’s only saving grace is that my living room has a black and red theme going on and this painting matches perfectly. So for now, it stays!

4. Fish Kisses—OK, it’s not technically “art” but I love this little card that my sister-in-law gave us for our anniversary and I’m leaving it on my counter for as long as possible. So cute!

A Celebration Two Years in the Makin’

2011-08-02T17:18:00.001-07:00

This weekend we celebrated. We laughed. We reflected. And most importantly, WE GOT AWAY! Thank you Jesus for the open road and a break from the routine!

We made a quick get away trip down to South Carolina and left our worries behind. We stayed at a hotel in downtown Greenville—which I had no idea was so incredibly adorable! It was so fitting (given our love for treasures and treasure boxes) that we ended up in a scavenger hunt through downtown.

A mouse scavenger hunt! Scattered all throughout Main St. are mouse statues. The Mouse Hunt is based on the book “Good Night Moon”. Nine mice in the book, and you guessed it nine mice in downtown Greenville.

That’s me with Mother Maggie Mouse, wife to Father Marvin (previously pictured). As you can tell, I was really excited about these mice! They were actually pretty challenging to find. My competitive nature would not let me quit and thanks to Matthew’s good eyes we spotted all nine!

Another thing I loved about downtown Greenville were all the water falls and fountains. In the picture above we saw a stone wall with cascading waterfall. You’ll never guess what was behind the wall? One incredibly fancy….public restroom? Yup, a fancy public restroom. Maybe it’s appropriate given all the running water in this town?

Our hotel also had a beautiful indoor/outdoor water fountain as well, but I forgot to snag a picture. It’s truly amazing how water can transform an atmosphere. Everything was so peaceful!

To top it all off was Falls Park, and INCREDIBLE public park in the Arts District of downtown and within walking distance of our hotel.
We walked across a HUGE pedestrians only bridge and saw THIS amazing view.

Later, as we walked to the trails of the park we found this amazing tree. We were awestruck by the depth and size of the roots.

Side note (skip ahead if you’re allergic to tree symbolism): Thinking back, I guess marriage is a little like the roots on a tree. When cared for properly, strong roots develop that provide an anchor in the storms and nutrients during the drought. Our prayer is that our marriage would be rooted firmly in love for one another and more importantly a love for Christ.
And finally…

During our dating years we took several photo booth pictures. This anniversary I decided to bring back the tradition. Hopefully we can reveal a new photo booth picture for each anniversary.
Happy 2 Years! Year 3 here we come…
And in case you missed it, my meager 1st anniversary post is here.

Almost There…

2011-07-20T18:07:00.001-07:00

The last time we check in our our house she looked something like this.

Naked!…….and now our wittle house has grown up, in only a matter of a few days.

What a difference color and siding makes. We picked colors in March and I had honestly forgotten what we even picked out!
When I saw it all in person I must say I was really impressed how well everything came together!

I am so excited that our house is finally starting to look like a place to live.

In other news:
1.) I signed up for the Asheville Half Marathon.
This is something I’ve been wanting to do for a while, but I am a tad bit intimidated. I’m not sure if running long distances is my thing. I guess we’ll find out.

2.) Our 2nd Anniversary is coming up on August 1st. Since we’ll be moving into our house we’re not taking a trip anywhere, but we a taking a day off together and planning to do something special around town.

3.) My newest blog obsession is Young House Love. It is a DIY home improvement/family blog. I adore there Inspiration Gallery. It really motivates me to spice up our décor for the new house.
Hey blog readers—I am wondering who’s out there? Comment below.

No prizes. I’m just curious!

Our House

2011-07-10T19:29:00.001-07:00

Here is the most recent update on our house. Roof. Check. Walls. Check. Doors and windows. Check!

We’re getting close…..

Mother’s Day Photo Shoot

2011-06-27T16:57:00.001-07:00

For Mother’s Day I bought my mom a special photo shoot with Mozingo Photography. It’s been a challenging year especially for my mom and I wanted to do something to celebrate her truly amazing outlook on life.

My mom is the most loving and generous person I know. She is an amazing nurse at the hospital caring for hundreds of people she barely knows. Not to mention over the past few years she has faithfully cared for my grandmother who has had difficulties with her health. My mom is a beautiful person inside and out.
Thank you God for giving me such an amazing example of love in the life of my mom.
I wanted to share these very special memories of my family with you. Here are a few of my favorites.

House

2011-06-12T17:19:00.001-07:00

From plot of grass to poured foundation, here’s the progress on our house!

Home Fitness-Day 1

2011-05-23T17:49:00.001-07:00

As I mentioned we did a 3 month stint with crossfit. Awesome program, way too early in the morning.

Since I am enjoying running in the great outdoors so much we let of membership lapse.
Now I am finding creative ways to make strength training workouts at home.
Here’s my first…..

@ Home WORK OUT

100 crossfit sit ups

150 crossfit squats

15 crossfit burpees

Let me know what you think. If you’re curious about what the forms is supposed to look like check youtube.

Ramble Run 12K Finish

2011-05-15T14:11:00.001-07:00

Fear

2011-05-01T14:44:00.001-07:00

I wonder how many moments in life are wasted because our fear of the future keep up from being alive in the present.

In the midst of fear we fixate on our own emotions. Instead of living or others, or living for God, we carefully tread the waters and seek to rationalize, justify, or simply pacify our own emotions.

What is it about the pictures above that scares you the most? Is it the immediate treachery of the bridge or is it the far off risk of the distant unknown? What happens who you focus of the element you fear?

If your are like me the more you allow yourself to focus on the fear the more in consumes. Every minute you spend looking at that element of fear is a moment you could have spend enjoying the bigger picture.

The Bible tells me that God is not persuaded by fear, because he had written the end of the story. God is referred to as El Elyon, The Most High God. Meaning, he rules over all things, including fear.

In life there are many situations that our human emotion would be justified in reverting to a state of fear however as a believer I know that God promises to never “leave or forsake” me. So when I face a situation of fear I know I am anything but alone. Rather than allowing my fear to consume me I can look to the one who is my “shield and sun”, my protector and provider. He is sufficient.

Ramble Run–April

2011-04-23T16:01:00.001-07:00

I made it. Today I hit the 75 minute run mark and it felt good. As long as I an keep my pace for the next 2 weeks I think I will be ready for The Ramble Run 12K on May the 7th.

I tracked my April run times. They really aren’t all that consistent because I sometimes find it difficult to make time to get my runs in when I am working 40+ hours a week. Nevertheless, I reach my goal!

Here are my April times:

April 7th – 65 minute run
April 8th – 35 minute run
April 9th – 30 minute run
(life got busy)
April 14th – 35 minute run
April 19th – 30 minute run
April 21st – 50 minute run
April 23rd – 75 minute run

In case you’re curious here’s a preview of the entire run.

Side note: I really have no idea how to measure how “far” I’m running because I usually run on trails and without a measuring device. So, I am estimating that a 75 minute run will be at least 7.2 miles or 12K.

April is Here!

2011-04-10T12:08:00.001-07:00

Can you believe it? April! We are 1/4 of the way through 2011.

March flew by, which left me wondering, where did my goals go to? Here’s an April update and a new set up goals.

1. Submit Grad school application and Grad school scholarship application. (Check. I was accepted to the school, not I am just waiting to hear back on the scholarship).

2. Actually get up to 6 miles running. (Check, considering where I was at last month I am really surprised I met this goal. I am now up to running 65 minutes. I will be going for my 70 minute run next week)

3. Finish a book (ICheck! I finished Seth Godin’s “Poke The Box”, I really recommend it.)

4. Improve public presentation skills.(Check. I definitely made some progress in this area. Our department successfully hosted a company wide training program and I was able to present my portion of the program. It was a first and I really enjoyed it)

5. Learn a new scripture (Boo! I can’t say I have been very intentional about this one. I have mediated and reviewed certain scriptures throughout the month but I have not internalized them. More one this later…)

6. Turn 23. (this one is sort of a given). Done!

Since I’ve really enjoyed writing my February and March goals I thought I would continue the trend for April.

1. Laugh more.
2. Get outside whenever possible
3. Listen, learn, and be open to change in my new leadership role at work.
4. Run my very first 12K, without stopping.
5. Find a scripture to be “anthem” and learn it.
6. Do something new in Asheville.
7. Get involved in the Biltmore YMCA Community.

I have elaborated on my scripture goal this month.

Last month, I learned a lesson about memorizing scripture, it is much easier to member scripture when you meditate on it throughout the day. My goal this month is more than simply learning a scripture, it is living the scripture. You can learn from a pastor, you can learn from reading, but until you actually live and declare the power behind God’s word you cannot fully absorb it.

Stand Firm

2011-04-01T12:08:00.001-07:00

Therefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain. 1 Corinthians 15:58 NIV

Praise

2011-03-20T05:42:00.001-07:00

There are two attitudes that most frequently keep me from God’s best:

1. An attitude of pride and self-worth
2. An attitude of self-pity and blame.

The best way that I have found to turn my heart from these kinds of selfish attitudes is to praise.

When I am looking to God in praise I see that His plan is bigger than my immediate circumstance. I take my eyes off of myself and realize, it’s not about me.

Words to know:

Praise the LORD, my soul,
and forget not all his benefits—
who forgives all your sins
and heals all your diseases,
who redeems your life from the pit
and crowns you with love and compassion,
who satisfies your desires with good things
so that your youth is renewed like the eagle’s. Psalm 103:2-5

Papa Moments

2011-03-08T18:16:00.001-08:00

One of my favorite things in all the world is to listen to my Papa tell stories of his business, family, and life. Sometimes my Papa will share something with me that I’ve heard a hundred times from him before, but he has a way of explaining things that makes it impossible not to be interested.

For today I thought I would share a moment of wisdom from my papa, a “Papa Moment” if you will.

Ever thought about what makes up a complete person?

My Papa has a acronym :

P-PRIDE
E-ENTHUAISM
O-ORIGINALITY
P-PERSONALITY
L-LEADERSHIP ABILITITY
E-ENJOYMENT

He always ends with a clause explaining that true enjoyment can only come from faith in God.

So easy to remember! Thanks Papa for keeping it simple!

Update!

2011-03-05T13:30:00.001-08:00

Ek! I am getting awful at updating this blog.
Since it’s been FOREVER, here’s an update on my February goals.

1. ~~Plan a fun birthday for my husband.~~ (Check!) His birthday actually on Monday, but we did his birthday “event” last weekend. Paintball was a hit. Then we went out for yummy dinner last night. I still have presents to give to him for Monday. YAY!

2.. Run 6 miles twice this month. (Didn’t happen) However, I am shooting for at least 5 tonight when I run.

3. ~~Continue CrossFit class twice a week. Increase weight and time.~~ (Check!) I am really feeling stronger and I was even able to add a little weight to the bar, even thought it was only 10 lbs.

4. ~~Intentionally adding value to someone at least once a week.~~ I put together a scripture ring for about 9 ladies for our Ladies Night Out event a few weeks ago.

5. Read a new book (This one gets a half check) I have read half of two books, but haven't finished either one.

6. ~~Plan once a week regular devotional time with my husband.~~ This one sort of just happened, but we really like sitting down together on Tuesday night to study scriptures. I think that could work for the long run.

7. ~~Learn a new healthy recipe.~~ Not sure it counts for “healthy” but I’m trying out a new recipe for crab cakes tonight. Yum yum.

March goals:

1. Submit Grad school application and Grad school scholarship application.
2. Actually get up to 6 miles running.
3. Finish a book
4. Improve public presentation skills.
5. Learn a new scripture
6. Turn 23. (this one is sort of a given).

Hope your don’t mind me posting my goals. Getting it out there and public helps me to make it happen.
Hope you’re enjoying your Saturday as much as I am!

Accomplishments and Goals

2011-02-19T08:52:00.001-08:00

I am training for my first 12K run.

Matthew and I also hit a landmark two months of Cross Fit training.

I am feeling pretty accomplished, and stronger than I’ve ever been before.

Next month I’ve set a few goals for myself personally, professionally, physically, and emotionally:

1. Plan a fun birthday for my husband.
2.. Run 6 miles twice this month.
3. Continue CrossFit class twice a week. Increase weight and time.
4. Intentionally adding value to someone at least once a week
5. Read a new book
6. Plan once a week regular devotional time with my husband.
7. Learn a new healthy recipe

The one book I wish I hadn’t sold…

2011-02-17T16:35:00.001-08:00

This May will mark my one year anniversary of being a college graduate. Monumental, I know.

Although I firmly believe the real world has taught me lessons much more valuable than any amount of time spend in a classroom there are a few things I miss.

I really miss walking to class. I know that sounds weird, but I always loved the between class transition time. It was like a little refresher moment where I could breath some air and clear my mind and move on to something new. Anything that happened in the last class could be forgotten. I wish the work world had an equivalent.

And my one regret from my college days….
At this point I only have one and you might think is a pretty lame one.

I wish I hadn’t sold “Everything that Rises….” back to the text book buy backers.

I can’t even remember the name of the class we read the book in, but I    do remember being fascinated by the religious parallels and under tones of audacious grace.

In the class we never actually got to read the whole book and it was SO interesting. I remember having doubts as I went to sell it, but hey I needed the money. I guess since my college education has afforded me a full-time job I can probably find a way to purchase this book again.

Sorry for the ramblings. It’s what’s been on my mind.

Happy Thursday Friends!

Snapshot Sunday

2011-01-30T16:22:00.001-08:00

It’s Super Bowl Sunday and we are hosting our first Super Bowl gathering.
I don’t know about you but when I think Super Bowl, I think American.

So of course I needed an all American desert, and what’s more American than chocolate chip cookies?

These beautiful cookies were created from a famous recipe of my Grandma Barbara’s. Although my Grandma Barbara is not longer with us on this earth, her desert recipes live on! She was quite a baker!

On a final note, if you have not yet selected “your team” for the Super Bowl I am pulling the cuteness card right now. Are these not the most adorable Green bay Packers fans you’ve ever seen?
Don’t let me niece and nephews down this Super Bowl. And…..Go Packers!

Happy Sunday!

Mission Statement

2011-01-27T18:52:00.001-08:00

Hi Friends! It’s been another lag in the blog updates but I am back again. It is an busy time of year both personally and professionally. Though I have been challenged in many new ways I am learning more than ever to lean in and trust in the one who overcomes.

He overcomes. What an encouragement. With the uncertainty and fear that tends to pervade our culture isn’t it beautiful to know that we can live in confidence that we are aligned with the one who has conquered death and the grave.

I am so thankful for my job and the opportunity I have to work at a company to values doing the right thing.
We’ve rolled out a new company wide declaration that helps to clarify and define our core values. When it comes to my role in HR this has been especially valuable in coaching and guiding employees to “do the right thing”.

Our simple company wide declaration and mission statement got me to think about my own goals and purpose I think mission statements are valuable for a number of reasons but most importantly because they focus in on the core values.

I decided to invent my own mission/purpose statement.
The statement I came up with is: “Live Grace. Inspire greatness. Celebrate Love”
Each aspect of my statement has a personal meaning in my life. Each represents something I want to protect and prioritize in my daily decision making. Each represents a long-term value that is important to me.

I hope your day is beautiful and full of purpose! Caroline.

Sickness, Snow, and Sore

2011-01-15T15:15:00.001-08:00

These three words pretty much sum up the last week and a half. I got wiped out by a really bad cold, Asheville was blasted with around 10 inches of snow, and after working out for the first time with CrossFit I am more sore than I can ever remember being, ever.

Colds are so frustrating, but I am thankful for getting some time to rest and do things that my normally active and healthy self rarely has time to do. Like putting a few more stitches on my mom’s Christmas blanket (it’s getting closer mom!)

The snow was beautiful but also a real pain to drive in. This has been my first winter where snow doesn’t shut down my life completely. Public school had almost convinced me that the world stops when their are snow flakes in the sky, but surprisingly when you have a full time job work goes on.

And CrossFit, there really are no words except soreness to describe this experience.

Stinkin’ Thinkin’

2010-12-28T16:04:00.001-08:00

Sometimes all it takes is a change in the way we think about our situation.
Even problems have room for positivity. Where stinkin’ thinkin’ clouds the
airways but an attitude shift from resentment to contentment liberates.

In the video below Zig Ziglar talks about the attitude of a woman towards her job.
Negativity doesn’t just effect us on the job. We can assume a negative and
ungrateful attitude towards just about anything: a spouse, a family
member, a friend, a leader, an economic situation, a task, a co-worker,
a role or responsibility, and the list goes on and on.

Attitude Makes All the Difference

Repentance and Restoration

2010-12-27T17:17:00.001-08:00

If you’ve ever thought of repentance as a word word only meant for people with serious issues. I encourage you to look deeply into the beautiful rewards of a repentant heart. Repentance is more than just an guilty conscience it is the result of a humble heart before a holy God.

Repent then, and turn to God so that your sins may be wiped out, that times of refreshing may come from the Lord. Acts 3:19-20

Repentance is not your punishment. It’s your glorious right of daughtership. Your invitation to restoration. –Beth Moore, Esther

The Balancing Act

2010-12-15T18:39:00.001-08:00

Every feel like The Cat in the Hat?

You’re walking a tight rope. You’re barely keeping everything together. In back of your mind you know that and the minute someone hands you another responsibility, task or problem everything is going to come crashing down.

Maybe it’s time to stop the balancing act for a moment to evaluate what is really important. What do you want to be remembered for? What are the things you believe in? What roles and responsibilities are most important to you?

Step 1: Define your most important roles
Example: I am a wife, a friend, a sister, a daughter/granddaughter, a business professional, and a disciple of Jesus.

Step 2: Invest in each of your roles regularly.
Example: As a wife I want to be proactive in creating special moments and memories with my husband. As a business professional I want to seek opportunities to challenge myself and improve my skill set.

Step 3: Eliminate the energy zappers.
An activity that does not build on to your roles will obviously take away from them.
Example: Spending time on social networking sites, indulging in workplace drama, or seeking to earn approval from a a certain group or individual, all take away from opportunities I have to invest in the roles I have defined as most important.

Start investing now in the things that you value for the future.

Last but not least, I wanted to share a fun video of a book reading session with one of the children I met in Nicaragua. You might recognize the book…

Isidro

2010-12-11T20:38:00.001-08:00

Of all the pictures I took on our trip. I think this one in my absolute favorite. This is Isidro on of the boys at the Home of New Hope. When I say boy I mean ALL boy. Most of the time I saw him he was in the dirt or pushing around the toy truck with the other kids.

When I took this picture we were goofing around snapping pictures in each others facing. This children so beautiful and full of life. I am thankful for our time at the orphanages. I am thankful for the plan God has for each of these children.

If you are at all compelled to invest in the lives of one of these children check out the sponsorship page, it’s a great way to give back during Christmas.

Luz

2010-12-07T19:37:00.001-08:00

This is Luz, her name means light. She is one of the children we met at the Home of Friendship in Jinotega, Nicaragua. She and her friend “Sochie” climbed with us to the top of the mountain near their home. As soon as they got the to the top of the mountain the girls started picked bundles of flowers.

Just thought I would share a little share this picture to brighten your day with a little “luz”.

Alpha-Thankful

2010-11-22T17:51:00.001-08:00

So this week in class with Kidz in Motion. I challenged the kids to think of one thing they were thankful for to represent every letter of the alphabet. To my surprise they did it, and did it fast. So I thought I'd take the challenge too. Here’s my Alpha-Thankful List:

A- Apartment.
B- Bekah (my sister).
C- Car/Civic.
D- Dinner.
E- Extended Family.
F-Friends.
G- Grace.
H-Husband.
I-Ice Cream.
J-Jesus.
K- Kidz In Motion.
L-Life.
M-Mom.
N-Nature.
O-On Demand.
P-Papa.
Q-Quite moments.
R-Rocket Summer.
S-Sleep.
T-Trails.
U-UNCA.
V-Vacation time.
W-Work.
X-Xbox.
Y-YOU!
Z-Zion (The Promise Land).

Faith and Patience

2010-11-18T17:23:00.001-08:00

I wonder how many people have given up on dreams because they didn’t happen in the time frame that they expected? I wonder how many promises were forgotten because they didn’t come to fruition instantly?

This week I was struck by how beautifully faith and patience work together.
Faith without patience is shallow belief.
Patience without faith is a longing unfulfilled.
The combination of faith and patience is an unshakable force that isn’t intimidated by time or challenges.

If you’ve been waiting on a miracle, a promise, or a longing to be fulfilled don’t give up on your faith; instead, ignite your patience.

A faith that is confident enough to be patient is powerful.

We want each of you to show this same diligence to the very end, in order to make your hope sure.We do not want you to become lazy, but to imitate those who through faith and patience inherit what has been promised. Hebrews 6:11-12

Our faith is secure because of the righteousness, favor, and future promise that we have all been given as followers of Christ.

We can live our faith without instant gratification because:

“we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, whohave been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)

Laugh a Little

2010-11-17T15:08:00.001-08:00

I snagged this video at our office during the "song of the day". Come on, lighten up and enjoy!

Nicaragua and Prayers

2010-11-08T17:15:00.001-08:00

We are 17 days away from our trip to Nicaragua to visit Children of Destiny Orphanages

I am so thankful that the Lord has given us such a precious opportunity. I also so touch by the way that our friends, family, and church community have rallied around us in support.

We asked for help collecting all different sizes of pajamas to take down the the children. We are amazed to have half our of laundry closet full of the cutest little pajamas you have ever seen, and we're not even in the final week of collection.

As far as our travel plans are going everything is finally set. We have a tiny hurdle with my passport. Apparently when your name changes there is no way to get around getting a new passport. Unfortunately, because I didn't realize this until 4 weeks before our trip I had to "expedite" my passport. Amazingly, I collected all the necessary documents (FIVE!) and sent everything away at the via the faithful US postal service. All during my 1 hour lunch break! Phew!

Thanks for your prayers and encouragement. I am expecting this trip to be unlike anything I have ever experienced. Please continue to pray for our safety and for the many things God has for us to learn and experience during this trip.

Fall Colors

2010-10-30T17:15:00.001-07:00

Here are a few pictures I put together for all of my friends and family who don’t get to experience a true fall! Peak weekend for the leaves was actually last weekend, but we’ve still got plenty of colors left! Enjoy!

A bike ride and a good story.

2010-10-17T17:00:00.001-07:00

Bikes! Ok, so we NEVER would have invested in two mountain bikes if we hadn’t of won two gift certificates to the bike store from Matthew’s company appreciation party. Bikes were never really on the radar, but I’m so glad we got them because I had no idea what I was missing!!

This weekend was probably the most beautiful weekend of the year and we got to take our very first bike ride together since we were both kids (or in my case since riding across campus and NC State). It was a blast!

Above you can see a totally confusing picture of out new bikes (mine is in the back facing left. Matthew’s is in the front facing right). My bike is a pretty teal blue. I also have a matching teal helmet. I’m so glad they make girls bikes that are pretty, the boys bikes are very plain but mine is so cute!

A good story. I love good stories about real people. I think that’s why I love meeting new people so much because I love finding out where people have come from and how they got to where they are. This weekend I heard a really good story about my grandfather. I always treasure his stories but this time I felt as if I could almost imagine the things he did and went through. After hearing his story I realized that he had left a legacy. He lived a life of integrity and commitment to his family and to his God, even when it didn’t seem like the easy thing to do. Although he never preached from a pulpit or taught marriage seminars, the life he has lived is more inspiring than any sermon I have ever heard. I hope my life will be that kind of story.

Softball 2.0

2010-09-27T19:08:00.001-07:00

I came out of my high school softball retirement and drug and few of my High School team mates with me. Here’s the only picture you may ever see of me Christy and Shannon playing softball together post-high school.

The Earth Fare team has been fun. We are actually pretty good (most of the time), and more importantly I am getting to know lots of my new co-workers and reminisce with my old friends.

It’s definitely not an intense work out, but it is lots of fun!

Sunrise

2010-09-19T19:02:00.001-07:00

I love the mornings! Everyday has a new possibility and I always find that exciting.

Lately the mornings have been so colorful. I took pictures of two separate mornings where I was in absolute awe of the colors that lit up the sky.

I am so thankful for the beauty that surrounds me on a daily basis.

God is such an incredible artist.

Cartoons

2010-09-12T16:53:00.001-07:00

I think I need to watch Jimmy Neutron at least once. He has really cool hair that always stays the same, uses computers, and is super smart. Like my husband.

If I were a cartoon I think I would like to be Dora. I don’t look anything like her but I think she is the most fun cartoon girl. she gets to speak in Spanish whenever she wants. She has a pet monkey. She gets to go on outdoor adventures all the time. What more could a girl ask for?

I think Dora and Jimmy would make a very cute couple.

….seriously, I’m just a kid at heart,

A River

2010-09-06T10:10:00.001-07:00

A river reaches places which its source never knows. And Jesus said that, if we have received His fullness, “rivers of living water” will flow out of us, reaching in blessing even “to the end of the earth” (Acts 1:8 ) regardless of how small the visible effects of our lives may appear to be. We have nothing to do with the outflow— “This is the work of God, that you believe. . .” ( John 6:29 ). God rarely allows a person to see how great a blessing he is to others. –Oswald Chambers.

Near our apartment we have this cute little river that flows along the running trail. I love it, I enjoy it, but not until today did I wonder where it started or where it flowed to. I know many times I have been the beneficiary of a person who’s life is overflowing with the peace, goodness, and blessing that comes from God. I may not have realized where those small pieces of encouragement come from (many times from my husband) but they help get me through the day none-the-less.

You can’t see the river in the picture but this was right before a hike in Graveyard Fields. I am looking forward to lots more hikes this fall!

Character

2010-09-02T18:44:00.000-07:00

Reputation, Influence, Integrity.

These things take a lifetime to build, but can be destroyed in a moment. Everyday we make choices that either add to or take away from our reputation, influence, and integrity. Everyday we create habits that shape our character.

Reflecting on my past 4 months in the business world. I am surprised (though I shouldn't be) that even in today's world integrity, reputation, and influence can take you a long way.

Protect your reputation. I am convinced nothing is more valuable.

A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold. Proverbs 22:1

New Home

2010-08-28T17:00:00.001-07:00

Matthew and I recently moved to a new apartment. Even though we’re not fully unpacked we love everything about it! We are closer to both our jobs and we feel much less cramped. I was a little worried about the amount of kitchen storage (no pantry, which is a scary though for “foodies” like us") but after moving everything in it all fits perfectly! We’re also really excited that we have the space to enjoy and entertain lots of family and friends.

A few of my favorite things:
Running Trail. The running trail is directly outside our door. This is the view from our balcony.

Real dinning room table. We never had a “real” table at our old place we just used the coffee table for meals. I’m excited that we can actually have people over for meals and all sit around the table. The cushions are also really nice and cushy.

The Loft. I loved the loft before I ever saw it, but now I love it even more. It over looks the living room and has a great window that gives us beautiful natural light during the day, not to mention a pretty awesome view from my computer desk.

Hopefully I'll have more pictures to share soon.

Chocolate cake, dreams, and a fearless future.

2010-08-15T18:34:00.001-07:00

Last night Matthew and I went on a date night to a wonderful little local chocolate place. We got a piece of cake sat in a light blue corner, listened to a local musician play some Jack Johnson type music, and just talked. I love when I get to sit down with my husband and dream about the future. Ever since the moment I met him I always felt that God had given us a special bond, and with that bond came the power of promises that God spoke into our lives. In the day to day hustle and bustle it is easy to replace God with our own will-power but when I really put things in perspective it dawns on me that any of this, in fact all of this, could come crashing down in a moment.

That’s enough to put any self sustained person into a fear-induced paralysis.

I was encourage today by a verse today that says:
For God did not give us a spirit of timidity, but a spirit of power, of love and of self-discipline. 2 Timothy 1:7

God promises that we can look into the future with a smile on our face because he gives us a fearless spirit. We can be fearless because we know that no matter what happens in our lives God is in control and his purpose for our life is good.

There are very few things in life that are guaranteed, but God will never abandon us and that is a promise that we can carry through every circumstance and situation.

In case you were wondering, the chocolate cake was as good as it looks.

Lunch Food

2010-08-04T17:38:00.001-07:00

Lately I’ve been packing lunches for my husband and myself. My new favorite thing to make are soft tortilla wraps. Basically you can put any kind of meat or topping inside and tortilla (wheat if you want to be extra healthy) wrap it up and you have a delicious lunch. It’s especially great in the summer time, when hot foods just don’t sound all that delicious. I like wraps because they don’t take away from the flavor of the food on the inside.

Earth Fare has a really delicious basil & herb flavored turkey that I am hooked on. My favorite combinations with the turkey has been either avocados or banana pepper’s.

Now you know what’s been on my plate. Here’s a little bit of what’s been on my mind.
A scripture that I have been meditating over this weeks is
“Mercy triumphs over judgment” James 2:13.

It’s easy to be judgmental but often very hard to be merciful. I don’t know about you but I want to be triumphant in my life, work, and relationships so I’m trying to choose mercy.

Happy Anniversary!

2010-08-01T17:09:00.001-07:00

A year ago today I married my best friend and the most amazing guy I’ve ever known. This calls for at least a few pictures…

Photos are taken by my lovely friend Meriah with Mozingo Photography.

Organic Christianity

2010-07-23T11:51:00.001-07:00

In my last post, I address some of my old misconceptions about organic food. As promised, this post I am going to talk about something I like to call Organic Christianity.

Organic Christianity is simply my own understanding of Christianity at its purest form. It’s what happens when you take out all the “chemical additives” and remove all the “processing.”

Machines, chemicals and pesticides made food faster, cheaper and more visually appealing but as we’ve seen this food lacked many essential nutrients. Similar harmful ingredients have entered the Christian faith. They pollute the pure and simple gospel and deceive us into thinking that it is all the same.
Christianity that is truly organic relies on only one element to restore our broken relationship with God. That element is grace. Grace is the unmerited gift of perfection that God and he gave that to us through Jesus. God made it simple because he took our brokenness and made a new and perfect creation. We traded placed with Jesus and that is the meaning of grace. The chemicals and additives come into play when we try to replace grace with our accomplishments, our faith, our love, our charities, and our programs.
Grace is a gift God extends to us through Jesus. When we begin to add elements to grace it turns into a self-made faith that worships “me” rather than God.

Where there is grace there is also freedom. Like organic food that is able to grow into what it was designed the Organic Christians grow naturally because their focus is fully on God. Rules, laws, “shoulds” and “should nots” create an artificial faith. The artificial faith might look the same but it’s “chemical make-up” is entirely different (aka the motivation of behind the actions). Grace brings us closer to God and what we were created to be. The law (rules, etc.) turn us into something artificial.
An organic Christian adds nothing to the simple truth that God’s grace produces righteousness and inspires growth. Easier said that done.

If your not a Christian please, forgive us Christians when we don’t live organically.
If you are Christian who needs some nourishment in your life—try going back to living organically.

“Taste and see that the Lord is good” Psalm 34:8

Who can argue that organic always tastes better?

Organic Food

2010-07-13T17:54:00.001-07:00

Maybe I was the only one, but I used to think “organic” was terminology used to describe a strange and bizarre way of life that I could never relate to. Organic this, organic that—to me it all seemed like an 80’s fad word, that really didn’t mean anything other than elevated prices and “weird” food creations.

Well, believe it or not I found out that organic really wasn’t a strange concept at all. In fact, organic food has been around for a long time. It is only until recently that we have had to label the safe and natural food as organic. This happened because chemically processed foods became the norm.

Simply put organic food is food from the ground up.

The USDA requires strict certification for any food to be labeled organic. Here are a few of their guidelines:

avoidance of most synthetic chemical inputs (e.g. fertilizer, pesticides, antibiotics, food additives, etc), genetically modified organisms, irradiation, and the use of sewage sludge;
use of farmland that has been free from synthetic chemicals for a number of years (often, three or more);
keeping detailed written production and sales records (audit trail);
maintaining strict physical separation of organic products from non-certified products;
undergoing periodic on-site inspections.
You’ll find this label on all food that have been certified organic.

Hopefully I’ve dispelled some of your beliefs about organic foods. Stay tuned for my next post on organic faith. The similarities might surprise you….

Search Me

2010-06-24T05:06:00.000-07:00

"Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grevious way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting!" Psalm 139: 23

If you ever get stuck in the "I'm the victim" mindset Psalm 139 is an awesome prayer to lift up.

Asking God to search our hearts and minds will almost always point us to the dark and distisgusting places that we'd rather not look at. But it is in the darkness and we can find grace. When we are truly honest about the condition of our heart, we know there is no other choice than to turn to Jesus. His grace is more than enough for me, and for you.

The Good Samaritan Game

2010-06-14T19:07:00.001-07:00

For the next 13 weeks our Kidz in Motion class is going to be going over the parables (ie. “stories”) Jesus taught to his disciples. This week was our very first lesson. My favorite part of class this Sunday was after we went over the Bible story and had some time for our GAME! We put together a relay-race challenge for the kids based on the story of the Good Samaritan.

Each team was given 3 band-aids and a glass of water. The teams had to take turns being the Good Samaritan by putting a band-aid on their injured team mate. After the band-aids were placed the last person in the line had to bring a glass of water their injured teammate and run to the finish line. The team to get all the players back “home” wins. (For those of you who are interested the girls won the first game and the boys won the second).

In class we learned that anyone who is in need of our help, is our neighbor. During prayer kids thought of a friend or family member they could pray for that might need their help. Each kid was given a band-aid to remind them to pray for and help their neighbors.

Walks!

2010-05-22T16:16:00.001-07:00

My husband, Matthew, and I have started a new after work tradition...WALKS!

Ok, sounds simple but it has been one of the most rewarding things we've done in a while. We can relax, talk about our day, and enjoy the BEAUTIFUL weather.

Another thing I love about our walks is that we are getting to know people in our neighborhood and community A LOT better. Our neighbors are sharing their stories with us, and it is really amazing to see community bonds develop right before our eyes. It DARING to get out and get involved in the lives of total strangers, yet I can't help but think that if Jesus lived today he would probably taken a lot of walks.

Wall Décor

2010-05-09T19:20:00.001-07:00

After a very busy school semester I’ve finally had some time to clean up an de-clutter our tiny apartment (Big Thanks to my husband, it would NOT have happened without him)!

I wanted to share with you all my little wall art project. It started out with a beautiful hand made metal scripture that my wonderful friend got me for my birthday. From the picture you may not be able to tell be it says: “He will rejoice over you with singing” (Zephaniah 3:17).

Recently I found these adorable mirror birds at JC Penny. Decoratively, they fit perfect with my metal scripture, but it wasn’t until I put them up that I realized that symbolism.

Often, in the hustle and bustle of everyday I forget to notice the simple ways that God sings his love over me. I thought about the birds. God made these birds sing for us to delight in and as a reminder of the love song he sings over each one of us. How is God singing his love to you? Have you taken the time to notice?

Tips for Surviving College Debt Free

2010-04-28T19:07:00.001-07:00

It’s not easy, but it is certainly possible. Here’s how got my degree and stayed debt free.

#1 Decide and Commit.
Deciding to do college debt-free is a crazy idea, and It’s not certainly for everyone. Don’t expect to be able to do everything just like all your peers if you make this decision. Once you’ve decided make the commitment to yourself as well as to others. Speaking a writing your commitment verbally will make you more likely to follow through.

#2 Scholarships, Scholarships, Scholarships.
Fill out your FASFA for any government financial aid. Find out what school-wide and departmental scholarships your school offers and APPLY, many times these scholarships are never even granted because students fail to apply.
You can also sign up for National scholarship listings via the internet. One site I found helpful was fastweb.com

#3 Cut Costs.
Identify your needs vs. your wants. Wants can wait. You will have plenty of time after graduation to update your wardrobe. Take advantage of the one time in your life when it’s ok to show up with pajamas and wet hair.

#4 Turn Your Skills Into Cash
Are you a great writer? Exceptional at math? Do you have strong networking abilities? If you have a skill use it to your advantage to create a little extra income. For example, I developed a network of moms who needed an occasional babysitting. I distributed my number and before long I was getting calls to make money during the gaps in my class schedule.

#5 Monthly Payment Options.
Can’t pay you full tuition amount up front? Monthly payment planners such as Tuition Management can be a great options for students who have a steady income. By paying a small activation fee, typically $60, you can spread out your tuition over the course of several months. Be Careful to have a budget in place, getting behind on these types of plans can be costly.

#6 Attend College Locally.
You can save big bucks by living and home and attending a local college. If you want to still get the "away from home” experience, it may be possible for you to spend the first 2 years at a community college and complete any core requirements, then transfer your credits to a larger University.

#7 Cook Your Own Meals.
This will take some practice so be patient with yourself, but by avoiding all-you-can-eat cafeteria prices you can significantly curb your budget. Cooking large meals and eating leftovers for lunch makes the temptation to eat on-campus food a little less appealing and much more affordable.

#8 Rent Text Books
If your college or university doesn’t offer the option to rent text books you can find similar options from many online companies. Chegg is one such company, who also offers an incentive program (Chegg Champions) for spreading the word on your campus.

#9 Take Advantage of Freebies
Ok, “freebies” is actually a misnomer, most anything that your college “gives out” is most likely being paid for indirectly through your tuition. So attend those speaking events and the silly end-of-the-year themed parties and be sure to pick up the free T-shirt and snacks too!

#10 Give Back
Pinching pennies for college is no easy task and often requires an incredible amount of time and effort. However, aside from the money it is important to remember the things that you are passionate about. Take sometime to do something you love and do it for no reward. It is important to see the big picture and to remember that getting through college is only one part of your life-long journey.

Causal vs. Committed Friendships

2010-04-27T05:45:00.001-07:00

Casual Friendships: are geographically dependant, lack investment, and are numerous.

Committed Friendships: require sacrifice; are not easily severed or discontinued; span time, distance, and difficulties.

Which type of friendships do you invest in?

John 15:13 NIV
Greater Love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.

Children's Ministry Quotes

2010-04-26T10:55:00.001-07:00

It is a masterpiece of the devil to make us believe that children cannot understand religion. Would Christ have made a child the standard of faith if He had known that it was not capable of understanding His words?
-Dwight L. Moody

Critics who treat adult as a term of approval, instead of as a merely descriptive term, cannot be adult themselves.
-C.S. Lewis

We have come to a turning point in the road. If we turn to the right mayhap our children and our children's children will go that way; but if we turn to the left, generations yet unborn will curse our names for having been unfaithful to God and to His Word.
-Charles Spurgeon

If I could relive my life, I would devote my entire ministry to reaching children for God!
-Dwight L. Moody

Girl’s Gone Wise

2010-04-26T05:24:00.001-07:00

I stumbled across and awesome resource for Christian women. Girl’s Gone Wise is a blog with topics ranging from “Sexuality” to “On the Job”.
The founder Mary Kassian has also recently published a book with the same title. She will be hosting bi-weekly Bible studies online. I’ve already received a book for myself and a friend. I’m really excited about the online format because it allows me the flexibility to listen to the study at a time that is convenient for me.

A few of my favorite blog titles:

1. World’s 100 Most Powerful Women

2. Be Careful Little Eyes

3. Wise vs. Wild Contract #19: Sustainability

4. Can Bad Boys be Godly Men?

Going Corporate

2010-04-25T14:41:00.001-07:00

I guess it's time for the official announcement. Next Monday I will be starting my first full-time job working at the Earthfare corporate offices.
It's a awesome opportunity and I'm looking forward to learning a lot.
I am trusting God that he has a perfect plan for me and I am excited for what's in store.

The End.

2010-04-13T07:11:00.001-07:00

9 pages.
1 exam.
1 presentation.
and
1 final.

Between me and the end of my days at UNC Asheville. Weird.Exciting.Unfamiliar.

Compassion Child

2010-04-10T16:01:00.001-07:00

As part of our series on “Love” the Kidz in Motion class sent letters to Mandela, an 11 year old boy who Matthew and I sponsor through Compassion International. Mandela lives in Ethiopia and has a birthday this month (The picture to the left is of the cards our kids wrote and a class photo that I am getting ready to mail).

Sponsoring a child is simple and rewarding. You can read the child’s profile and learn about where they live and the things they they like to do. Matthew and I have sponsored Mandela for almost 3 years. We specifically choose Mandela because his profile said that he was “average in school.” We knew he was much more average, but the “average” label resonated with us because we’ve certainly felt average more than once, but God always reminds us how extraordinary he thinks we are!

Even when money was tight God always provided us with the ability to give each month to Mandela and his family, and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Check out the sponsor page if you’re interested in finding out more information on how to become a sponsor.

Stumbling forward

2010-04-10T07:24:00.001-07:00

This verse has been such an encouragement to me this week:

“If the Lord delights in a man’s way, he makes his steps firm;
though he stumble, he will not fall for the Lord upholds him with his hand.”
Psalm 37: 23

Have you ever felt like a stumbling Christian? Everyone around you seems to be walking in perfect stride but you’re doing everything you can to keep yourself upright. For the stumblers like myself, here is a promise I can’t help but get excited about. If we are living our lives in a way that honors God, He won’t let us fall. Sure we might have times were we’re unsure of the direction we are headed. Or fell a little off balance, but God is not going to let us wipeout. Even in our failures is he moving us forward to become more like Him. With a promise like that I’d much rather be stumbling with God than sprinting alone.

Who am I?

2010-03-17T17:14:00.001-07:00

I love being around people. What I find most fascinating about people is that all people have different strengths. Some people are well aware of their strengths, others are on the path of discovery, and still others still to be completely blind to their own “hidden” talents. Maybe you’ve never been encouraged in your talents, but I am convinced that everyone has them (contrary to what this cartoon wife might think).

What’s more, if we have allowed Jesus Christ into our lives his gives us his own set of talents, strengths, and promises.

I spent some time during dinner tonight in my Bible. I decided I was going to search for scripture that identified “who I was as a Christian.” I got started in the book of John. I didn’t even get half way through the book and I discovered some awesome characteristics of my identity in Christ. I am hoping to continue this search through the Bible. I believe that when we know who we are and what our goals are we carry a certain level of confidence. This confidence is available to every Christian because God clearly tells us who we are and our eternal worth. Here are a few example that I found:

I am blessed--
“From the fullness of his grace we have received one blessing after another” John 1:16

I am a child of God--
“Yet to all who received him, to those who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.” John 1:12

I am free from darkness (sin)--
“When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” John 8:12

“So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” John 8:32

Scripture for my Season

2010-03-16T07:15:00.001-07:00

I prayed this morning that God would give me a verse to live by in this season of my life. This is the second time I have prayed this prayer. After High School I spent some time on the mission field in Latin America. At the end of the trip God gave me a scripture from the Bible that I treasured for the next several months. This scripture talked about God's love for me and how he delighted in me with singing (Zephaniah 3:17). This verse was encouraging to me. To know that God loved me is such a way that he would actually proclaim it in song.

God gave me this verse during a time where I needed to feel his love. I was leaving my parents house, single, and vulnerable to feelings of loneliness. God knew this and proclaimed this truth over my life which encouraged me to seek Him more than ever in that particular season of my life.
Now, I feel as if I have entered a new season. I am married with more responsibilities than ever before. This morning I asked that God would give me a new scripture to encourage me through this new time in my life. God immediately answered my prayer and brought this scripture to my mind.

Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:7-8

Ironically, or maybe no so ironically, we have been studying the scriptures in 1 Corinthians 13 with our Kids class at Church in Motion. God has been teaching me all along I only needed to ask that he show me.

If you have never ask God to give you a personal word of encouragement to carry you through a particular season in your life I encourage you to do so. It may not happen right away but God will show you the words he wants to use to encourage you

At Peace

2010-03-04T08:38:00.000-08:00

Stress. Unemployment. Lack of money. Difficult times.
Maybe its just me but face of America today seems to reflect a lot of unrest.
Even the children, normally carefree, are beginning to take on the pressures and stresses they see in the faces of their parents.
In times, like these peace is often an illusive concept. We have believed the lie that peace can only be found by escape the reality of what we are going through.
I've found myself losing sight for peace as I plan to enter the work-force this summer.

But I am reminded that Jesus' idea of peace was much deeper than an escape from reality. Jesus' peace was confidence within the storm, certainty within chaos. His peace came from God. He peace allowed him to walk confidently in the direction that God led him.

"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid." John 14:25

The world gives us a false sense of peace that can crumble at any moment.
Jesus gives us peace eternal.

Adorable Alert

2010-01-27T18:21:00.001-08:00

Ever since Monday I haven't been able to stop smiling whenever I think about my Monday night babysitting.

I was trying to rush through bed time story books so I could get them to bed at least close to the time their bedtime One of the books they picked out was veggie tales. The story was about a boy who was scared of the dark and was couldn't go to sleep. So I start reading normally about how the little vegetable boy is scared of being in his dark room alone. I thought it would be just like any other story. But we get to about the fourth page and the two little boys start bursting out singing along with me as I read the story. First the youngest then the oldest and pretty soon I picked up the tune and was singing

right along with them!

So tonight when I had a moment of being totally overwhelmed by school work I took a youtube break and looked up the boogieman song. I love it! Maybe you'll enjoy it too. I am reminded to never take for granted the moments when you experience the simple and joyful faith of a child.

Last Semester

2010-01-22T13:49:00.001-08:00

I can't believe I've finally made it to my very last semester of college. The past few weeks I have experienced some of the weirdest and most confusing self-dialogues I’ve ever had about my own future. I think God has a very funny way of dealing with my "be-in-control" tendencies which usually involves my complete loss of control. And, in case you’re wondering yes, I’ve reached that stage. And yes, it’s just as awkward and strange as you might imagine. But again, I am reminded of God’s Word:

Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the LORD's purpose that prevails. Proverbs 19:21
As I look back on my life I find that the points where I have had to surrender my own plans have been the exact moments when God grew my character and advance me the place that he has purposed for me. So, although I feel stuck, I am in fact moving “full-speed-ahead” to the perfect place that God has for me.
Godspeed to me and to you! (I like that word. Not totally sure what it means but it made a nice pun).

What would you do....

2010-01-20T16:28:00.000-08:00

What would you do if...
                         You weren't afraid to fail?
                         You had nothing to lose?
                         You had nothing to fear?

I find that the closer I am to hitting the real-world (aka: life post college) the more I allow fear to enter my decision-making process. What if I'm not good enough? Or there aren't jobs available? What if I waste my money or time pursuing something that I will be unfulfilling.

So here's a little secrete that I've learned and am going to remind myself of: God doesn't create failures or losers. Nope, my God has a purpose for my life, otherwise I would not be breathing oxygen on this earth. Furthermore, I need not be afraid because he knows where I've been and where I'm headed.
So, I'm moving boldly into God's freedom. The freedom from fear and failure and the assurance that God loves me and have a purpose for me.

Favorite books on marriage…..

2010-01-12T16:57:00.001-08:00

I love to read. I think I love to read so much because I am a perpetual student and I love to learn I’m not the type of person that can pick up a fantasy book and spend the entire day absorbed in it, but give me a book where I can learn something that is applicable to my life and I will be completely content. Marriage book have been piling up on my shelves recently (for obvious reasons). The subject of marriage fascinates me and since I am going to spend the rest of my life as a wife I think it’s a pretty good idea to get some tips from the experts. So here’s a list of a few of my favorites.

My Favorite Books on Marriage:

1. God on Sex, Daniel Akin
My husband and I read this book together before we got married. Essentially it is a study of the book of Song of Solomon. Dr. Akin does a great job of walking through the book detail by detail. He parallels the study of the two lovers in Song of Solomon to some modern day trends. And gives very practical and Biblically based advice for a healthy marriage.
Function: Great tool for studying the Bible as a couple.

2. Power of a Praying Wife, Stormie Omartian
Although this book is less about marriage its self than it is about being a wife I think Stormie Omartian’s core message is timeless: We can never under estimate the how important prayer is within a marriage relationship. Again, this book is extremely practical. At the end of each chapter she offers prayer points to pray over your spouse based on the topic that she covers. The chapters are short and easy to read. About all, I think this book really forces you to correct a negative/ selfish attitude. After all, it is very difficult to lift your spouse up in prayer if you find yourself holding grudges or angry.
Function: A wonderful book for wives wanting to improve their prayer life.

3. Sheet Music, Kevin Leman
When I first heard the concept of Dr. Leman’s book Sheet Music my only thought was, “FINALLY!” Finally a Christian book that tackles the tough and sometimes intimidating questions that many Christian couples have about sex. His approach is tactful and respectful but make no mistake, he doesn’t hold any thing back. This is a great book for engaged couples and really helps to establish sexual expectations.
Function: For married couples with questions about intimacy. For engaged couples who want to know what to expect.
Function: Answers to some of the most taboo marriage questions.

4. Love and Respect, Dr. Emmerson Eggerichs
To be honest, this books definitely isn’t the easiest of reads. It is at times repetitive and hard to follow but I think the main ideas are excellent and its a great book to use as a resource. Dr. Eggerichs clearly explains what he calls “The Crazy Cycle” and presents ways for both husbands and wives from promoting an unhealthy cycle in their own marriages.
Function: I great resource for understanding the needs of both men and women.

5. For Men Only & For Women Only, Shaunti Feldhahn
Shaunti Feldhahn’s books come in two different editions, one for women and one for women. They are easy to read despite the highly statistical nature of the data collected. Feldhahn content is based on men’s reponses to a range of questions in survey format. I have only read the For Women Only version (for obvious reasons) but what I like about this book is instead of trying to explain the men’s answers Feldhahn lets the men speak for themselves through the data as well as through direct quotes. Many of the responses are in fact quite surprising. For me, It a great reminder that despite their though exterior our spouses need us more than they might ever let us know. I also found that this book helped me understand how to appropriately interact with the opposite sex without sending the wrong signals. A very important skill for anyone man or woman.
Function: A fun book and important book for EVERYONE who had EVER had to interact with the opposite sex, even if it’s not in a marriage relationship.

And, incase your wondering here are a few that are on my list to read next:

1. Love & War, John and Stasi Eldredge

2. When Sinners Say “I Do,” Dave Harvey

3. Love that Lasts, Gary Ricucci

Free household budget spreadsheets

2010-01-05T11:36:00.001-08:00

Nothing ruins a relationship faster than a drained bank account. These are wonderful resource to help get your marriage off to the right start. I also highly not only a household budget spreadsheet but a wedding budget spreadsheet as well (you don’t realize how quickly those strands of ribbon add up until you map it out). If you are cringing just looking at the word “budget” check out the links at the end of this article they will help you get a better idea of what a budget is and how to use it for your benefit.

by Bob on September 10, 2008

(This article is posted with permission from Christian Personal Finance)
A reader recently asked me if I knew of any good and free budgeting spreadsheets. Personally, I love Excel and get a kick out of building spreadsheets, but I know not everyone is as interested in that as I am.

About the spreadsheets

Each one of the sheets below are free and are designed to be used with Excel, but will more than likely work if you use OpenOffice (basically a free version of Microsoft Office). Some may also work with Google Docs, but I have had bad luck with some of my imports into Google Docs.
Budgeting Software:

YNAB Pro – YNAB is a software that is dedicated specifically to budgeting and it does it well.
Mvelopes Budgeting System – If you like the envelope system of budgeting – this is it, only with virtual envelopes that you manage online.

Each of the budgeting sheets below have their own strengths and weaknesses, so give try them out, see what works, and make tweaks and changes if necessary. If you have a spreadsheet that you have built or have found (that is free to distribute) please provide a link to it in the comments below.
Since we are talking about free spreadsheets, I will tell you about two I built and use. They aren’t necessarily for budgeting, but they help keep our finances organized.

FLOP (Financial Life on One Page) – Basically my balance sheet to calculate my Net Worth, keeps track of account numbers, and other information about all my financial accounts.
Bill Payment Schedule – I pay my bills twice a month. I use this sheet to make sure everything balances and gets paid at the right time.

If you are just getting started budgeting, I suggest reading this article first: How to make a budget. Once you are finished, come back to this article and you can download one of these sheets.

Household budgeting Spreadsheets

Here are all the personal budgeting templates listed in no particular order.

Personal budgeting spreadsheet

A good and simple budget spreadsheet. The user has to enter each purchase and details in order to get full and accurate tracking of expenses.

Household budget template

Allows you to put in each item you purchase and the item’s category. It will then add up and compare the total amount spent with the amount budgeted.

Personal Budget monthly spreadsheet

This one is good if you are trying to add up income and expenses and find the difference between the two.

Family Budget planner

This one allows you to look at the whole year’s expenses and income with each month being a column in the sheet.

Wedding Budget Template

This sheet provides suggestions on how much you should spend on each item in the wedding. It also will help you think of expenses you might not have thought of.

GLBL Budget Spreadsheet

Simple it is different than most because it works by pay period, rather than by month.

Debt Reduction spreadsheet

This is a really cool spreadsheet that helps you decide the best method for paying down your debts. It allows you to create a debt reduction schedule based on the debt-snowball method. The first page is a basic calculator for you to enter your information, choose your total monthly payment, and see a summary of the results based your debt reduction strategy. The second page is a printable payment schedule to help you keep track of your progress.

Related articles: How to make a budget and why budgeting is like baking cookies.
Christian Personal Finance does a wonderful job explaining the world of finances and budgets.

Newlywed for a year?

2010-01-04T14:48:00.001-08:00

My husband and I were married just over 6 months ago. Honestly seems like only a few short weeks have passed by. Someone recently mentioned to me that the term “newly-wed” will only apply to our relationship status for another 6 months. Hey, wait a minute! Who put a time limit on being a newly wed? As far as I’m concerned I want to be a newlywed for LIFE. Sure, I realize that life won’t always be as perfect as it was on our honeymoon: no obligations, no stress, and an unlimited supply of gourmet food (made by someone else). But, I would like to propose that it is possible to have a meaningful, fulfilling and exciting relationship far beyond the allotted one year time period.
Here are a few words that I found to be essential in my relationship with my husband thus far. I hope to elaborate on this words in later posts but for now here they are:

                 patience                                     truth
Laughter                        admiration                               appreciation

                love         unity        trust

                                 kindness

faithfulness                       respect
                                selflessness        grace

    forgiveness

Let me know what words are important to you.

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2010-01-02T11:26:00.000-08:00

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Do Less in 2010.

2009-12-31T13:24:00.000-08:00

I wrote out some of my goals for 2010.
After looking over the list I realized that they all had one unifying theme: DO LESS.

Here's why I think LESS is the new more for the new year:
1. Committing to less allows you to do a few things very well.
2. By focusing on only a few things you can become THE BEST at those things.
3. The market demands people who are the best. Don't believe me, check out Seth Godin's book "The Dip". He does a great job of explaining this idea
4. The Bible says: "If you are faithful in little things, you will be faithful in large ones." (Luke 16:10) It is impossible to be faithful to hundreds of things and people. So even if the things you have to be faithful to seem small it is better to focus your energy on those things rather than trying to pile on more and more responsibilities. These will eventually diffuse your attention until you can't do anything effectively.
5. Grace. In 2009 I realize that God's grace has done more for me than I ever could do for myself. In 2010 I want to rest in the FINISHED work of Jesus, rather than relying promoting my own good deeds. I don't need to do MORE because Jesus has done it all. I am righteous because of Him, not because of what I have done or will do.

60 day Freeware for E-mail Marketing

2009-12-30T16:03:00.000-08:00

I'm always on the look out for good resources that will help my family and friends. Today signed up for the 60 day free-trial of Constant Contact. Constant Contact is a site that allows you to send HTML quality e-mails without the hassle of writing code. This means that your message in its original form will pop up DIRECTLY in the e-mail, without the recipient having to open a document file.

This is a great tool if you own your own business, or have a network of people that you would like to say connected to. With the New Year approaching fast it is also a great way to use to say "Thank You" to all the people that have made your business, church, or community group a success. You can use the service as much a you want with the 60 day period (but I say it's worth it even if you just use it once). However, you may only add up to 100 contacts. The e-mails are high quality and you can choose your own layout and include as much or as little information as you like. Click the link above to get your 60 day trail.

Here's mine I created for my nanny services:

Dissension

2009-12-29T05:43:00.000-08:00

I love the practical wisdom of the book of Proverbs. I also love the fact that I can skip around in not particular order to find words or phrases that apply to my life or situation. Usually when I find myself in a situation where I have uncertainties about how to react I turn to proverbs.

I've been thinking a lot about the book of Proverbs lately especially as a finish up my application for graduate school in counseling. Whoever wrote the book of proverbs would have probably made an excellent counselor. Essentially, counselors equip people with wisdom for daily life. And that's exactly what the book of Proverbs does.

Often, the proverbs of God's word seem obvious. Yet the simplicity and clarity of how they are presented makes them easy to apply to our lives and situations. A good counselor should do the same.

Today I read a proverb that caused me to check my own attitude. It read:

Hatred stirs up dissension, but love covers over all wrongs. Proverbs 10:12

Have you ever been hurt, deceived, or extremely disappointing? If so, you know that your first reaction to that situation typically isn't love. It probably resembles more of the hatred end of the spectrum. The psalmist tells us that that hatred stirs up dissension. I believe that this dissension could be between individuals. But I know for me, hatred often wrecks interval havoc as much as external havoc. The anger I feel causes me to shut down to the point that it begins to interfere with my thoughts an attitudes towards myself.

When I choose love over hate, I am making a choice that frees me. Hatred bonds us to a situation that we often have no control over. Love and forgiveness allow us soar above the situation and be free from further guilt and pain.

(NOTE: When we chose LOVE over hatred it does not require that we place ourselves in the same situation again. If you have been severely hurt either physically or emotionally don't put yourself in that situation again).

Is there dissension in your heart? Perhaps, it's time to chose love.

Merry Christmas!

2009-12-24T12:33:00.001-08:00

Check out Luke 2!

Gift for Grandma

2009-12-22T10:47:00.000-08:00

For the past 3 years my grandmother has been suffering the effects of memory loss. This Christmas I wanted to get her something special. A friend of mine suggested a photo book with pictures of all the family members to help her feel like she is remembering. I ordered the book from snapfish.com. By adding a $10 off coupon I was able to get the entire book for only 19.99 + shipping.
Great deal! And I think my grandmother is going to LOVE it!

Faithfulness

2009-12-21T05:35:00.000-08:00

If I had to choose my favorite characteristic of my husband's I would have to say it is his faithfulness. He is faithful to his job. He is faithful to is responsibilities at church. He faithfully pays our bills on time. And he is faithful to me, as a husband.

When I first met him it was that quality that stood out above everything else. He faithfully perused me in a dating relationship. He faithfully respected me. And he faithfully waited on God's perfect timing for marriage.

And as much as I valued his faithfulness in our dating relationship I value it even more now that we are married. He goes out of his way to protect himself from anything that would distract him from his loyalty to me.

I really believe the psalmist knew exactly what he was talking about when he claimed:

Many a man claims to have unfailing love, but a faithful man who can find? Proverbs 20:6

Don't just wait for a guy who claims to be madly in love with you. "Love," as we have seen, has been distorted by our culture and too often results in a shallow sentiment that relies solely on emotion.
Wait for the man who is faithful enough to commit himself to you and you alone in EVERY season of his life.

Swagbucks.com

2009-12-18T10:25:00.000-08:00

Here's another way I've found to make money right from your computer.
Swagbucks.com, is a program sponsored by Google and Ask.com.
Basically you earn points for searching the web. If you're like me you probably use google at least 10 times a day. Now, by searching with Swag's tool bar you earn POINTS for searching the way you always do.
Points can then be exchanged for gift cards, merchandise, or put into a paypal account.
Not every search will amount to swag points but it's definitely worth it for anyone who uses search engines on a regular basis.
You automatically earn 3 swag point just for signing up.

Start earning points now and by next Christmas you'll have lots of gift cards to share with everyone!

Amazon's 25 Days of Free

2009-12-16T17:11:00.001-08:00

Amazon if offering a free MP3 download of a Christmas song for each day during the month of December. I especially love today's song by Brandon Heath called "The Night Before Christmas."

Unity

2009-12-16T05:20:00.000-08:00

I am reading the gospel of John during my morning devotions.
Today I was stuck by Jesus' passion for UNITY among believers.

John 17:20-23:

"My prayer is not for them alone. I pray also for those who will believe in me through their message, 21that all of them may be one, Father, just as you are in me and I am in you. May they also be in us so that the world may believe that you have sent me. 22I have given them the glory that you gave me, that they may be one as we are one: 23I in them and you in me. May they be brought to complete unity to let the world know that you sent me and have loved them even as you have loved me.

My first reaction was, is that kind of unity even possible. Does Jesus really expect Christians with all their idiosyncrasies and individual preferences to have kind of unity that Jesus Christ and God have?

The answer is, of course not. Not apart from the power of God through the Holy Spirit.

I don't know about you but I am constantly fighting the urge to seek my own glory.
The type of unity that Jesus is talking about can NEVER come for a desire for human glory. It only comes when we have surrender our purposes to God's plan. It comes when we seek God's glory before our own.

Of course Jesus wasn't praying for us to deny what makes us individuals but he was praying that we would deny that which makes us anything but KINGDOM thinkers. And of course, this is absolutely impossible without God's help--daily.

When was the last time you prayed for unity among the believers in your community?
If you have ever struggled, like me, with standing in God's spotlight, try it. You might be surprised how it will alter your perception.

If you're not a follower of Christ have you ever been disappointed by Christians who are constantly at odds with one another?

Know it.

2009-12-14T07:43:00.000-08:00

Then he added, “Now go and learn the meaning of this Scripture: ‘I want you to show mercy, not offer sacrifices. For I have come to call not those who think they are righteous, but those who KNOW they are sinners.” Matthew 9:13

Free Worship and Christmas Music Download

2009-12-08T12:15:00.001-08:00

Elevation Church out of Charlotte, NC is giving out a Christmas gift.
Today only you can download for FREE the full version of their worship album "God With Us."
They also have posted a link for 3 FREE Christmas songs from their Christmas album.
I'm listening to it now. Really solid stuff!
Check it out HERE.

The Weight of the World.

2009-12-07T10:19:00.000-08:00

Something just clicked in my mind a few minutes ago when I heard the lyric from a song I was listening to.
The song asked:

"Do you feel, the weight of the world singing sorrow?"
I wanted to answer, "Yes, that's exactly what I feel."

In fact, those words describe pretty accurately the way I have been feeling on-and-off over the past several weeks now. It is a mixture of frustration and fear. Frustration that so much injustice exists in the world today,
and fear that my life is too small to do anything about any of it.

I thought about people dying of AIDS or malaria, or starvation,
I thought about people living in dumps or in cardboard houses or under bridges,
I thought about children without parents without education without clothes
I thought about pollution and waste
I thought about racism and hate
I thought about violence and war
I thought about pain and torture
It all seems so unfair.

And yet, I wonder, is there anything that I can ever really ever do?
Do I have to resign to going about my day to day?
To pushing those thoughts away?

I remembered our kid's lesson from Church in Motion this Sunday (Teaching kids lessons has away of helping to understanding God's Word in a surprisingly profound way). We talked about Jesus' special relationship with his disciples. How Jesus CHOSE his disciples. How he TAUGHT his disciples. How he HELPED his disciples. And how he showed his POWER to his disciples.
We also talked about as followers of Jesus' we are also disciples and Jesus does all those things for us too.

Jesus knew that when he left the earth things would happen to dishearten the disciples and for that reason he left them with this encouragement
He said:
"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world." John 16:33

Jesus, knew that the world would be full of trouble. But he also knew that every part of this world (the good the bad and the ugly) was, is, and always will be under his authority.
Nothing is insignificant about my life as long as I am walking in the steps my Savior has ordained for me.
God has not created me to save the world (that's his job) but he has allowed me to be part of his perfect plan.
He has given me peace because he has lifted the weight of the world off my shoulders.

Tom's Shoes

2009-11-28T09:46:00.000-08:00

Coupon for $5 off!

I bought my first pair of Tom's shoes back in 2007. I remember at that time the Tom Shoe's offered about 20 different styles to choose from. I was intrigued that my purchase would help give shoes to a child in need. Since 2007 the company has grown tremendously. I just visited the website and realized that I could even count the number of shoes available, not to mention several new styles.
If your looking for a shoe that will hold up in marathon run, this might not be the shoe for you. But if you're looking for to purchase something that allows you to give back, AND makes a statement check out Tom's.

**Use the above coupon for $5 off!

About Tom's Shoes
From: http://www.tomsshoes.com/Our-Movement

One for One

TOMS Shoes was founded on a simple premise: With every pair you purchase, TOMS will give a pair of new shoes to a child in need. One for One. Using the purchasing power of individuals to benefit the greater good is what we're all about.
Our Story

In 2006 an American traveler, Blake Mycoskie, befriended children in Argentina and found they had no shoes to protect their feet. Wanting to help, he created TOMS Shoes, a company that would match every pair of shoes purchased with a pair of new shoes given to a child in need. One for One. Blake returned to Argentina with a group of family, friends and staff later that year with 10,000 pairs of shoes made possible by caring TOMS customers.

Since our beginning, TOMS has given over 150,000* pairs of shoes to children in need through the One for One model. Because of your support, TOMS plans to give over 300,000 pairs of shoes to children in need around the world in 2009.

Our ongoing community events and Shoe Drop Tours allow TOMS supporters and enthusiasts to be part of our One for One movement. Join us.
Why shoes?

Most children in developing countries grow up barefoot. Whether at play, doing chores or just getting around, these children are at risk.

Walking is often the primary mode of transportation in developing countries. Children can walk for miles to get food, water, shelter and medical help. Wearing shoes literally enables them to walk distances that aren't possible barefoot.

Wearing shoes prevents feet from getting cuts and sores on unsafe roads and from contaminated soil. Not only are these injuries painful, they also are dangerous when wounds become infected. The leading cause of disease in developing countries is soil-transmitted parasites which penetrate the skin through open sores. Wearing shoes can prevent this and the risk of amputation.

Many times children can't attend school barefoot because shoes are a required part of their uniform. If they don't have shoes, they don't go to school. If they don't receive an education, they don't have the opportunity to realize their potential.

There is one simple solution...SHOES.

Of the planet's six billion people, four billion live in conditions inconceivable to many. Lets take a step towards a better tomorrow.

Happy Thanksgiving

2009-11-28T09:39:00.000-08:00

Hope everyone had a wonderful Thanksgiving!
Only 27 Days until Christmas!

We decorated our entire hours for around $50.
$20 tree from Target 6'
Lights and decorations from the Dollar Tree $6
Tree skirt $5 Wal-Mart
Stocking $12 Target (I was particular about these because I wanted ones that would last).
Christmas penguin $6 Target
Some Christmas lights that we got from our wedding in August.
And a manger set up that was a gift.

Looks beautiful! I'll post pics soon!

Free Pictures!!

2009-11-24T15:38:00.000-08:00

Since we've gotten married I have had TONS of pictures waiting to be printed! Those little 19 cents tabs add up quickly when you have literally HUNDREDS of pictures to print. So I've been searching the web for good deals on photo prints. Fuji has a special going on right now, when you sign up on their website you get credit for 100 FREE 4x6 prints (Shipping is not included). Check it out.

*When you sign up you will be sent an e-mail with the promotional code that you can use at check out in order to redeem your discount. So don't delete that e-mail!

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Thankful.

2009-11-14T17:44:00.000-08:00

A few years ago I was part of a girl's Bible study. One of my favorite little treasures I took away from this study was the "Thank You Book." We were given a small note book and asked to write a few things we were thankful for in it. I wrote a few things down, and a few weeks late I went back and wrote a few more down. Then out of the blue I had a REALLY bad bad day. I saw and little Thank You Book and although I was a mess of emotions I read through the list of things I had written. It was a subtle reminder of the bigger picture, that the things that I had faced that particular day were only a brief glimpse of the reality of my life.

I believe as a follower for Christ. I always have something to be thankful for and that something is LOVE--the love of a Savior who choose me despite all of my shortcomings.

When we have something to be thankful for we are able to live in peace. The Bible says:
A heart at peace gives life to the body,
but envy rots the bones. Proverbs 14:30

So be thankful, your bones will thank you! :)

The Worst Diet EVER

2009-11-02T08:17:00.000-08:00

I will spare you the details, but let's just say my Halloween did not involve very much candy. Somehow, I picked up a stomach still hasn't completely forgive me. I spent two days without setting foot outside (VERY unusual for me), watched way too much TV, and tried to do ANYthing productive only to be reminded that my place was on the couch. I am not good at being patient. I am also not a very good patient. Matthew took great care of me, even when I didn't like having to be taken care of.
I like to adopt the "I can do it myself" attitude with God too. I can't tell you the number of times I've started a ministry thinking "I can do this." Nope. I can't. And living a life of dependence of what I can do is frustrating at best. Thankfully when my flesh is weak it is the spirit of God inside of me that carries on. It is that same spirit that has given me power and authority.
When I see the pain and hurting all over the world. My flesh cries out, what could I possible do to make a difference? But my Spirit claims victory. The same victory that rose Jesus from the dead lives in me to confront all the pain this world has to offer.
CHRIST IN ME THE HOPE OF GLORY Coloss. 1:27

Everyone is sick and I am taking the GRE

2009-10-27T13:17:00.000-07:00

Everyone has been sick. I mean EVERYONE.
I thought I was getting sick Friday night, but luckily it was nothing a little rest and chicken noodle could fix over night! Matthew prayed for me. I love that he prays!

I signed up to take to GRE and I am realizing that I have seriously forgotten 1/2 of all the math I've ever learned. I thought college was supposed to make you smarter?

Restless

2009-10-16T06:21:00.000-07:00

It has been three years since my foot last left the soil of Latin America, for what would be my last mission trip experience. I never thought that three years later the sights and smells of those people and places that I experienced would send my heart spiraling back across the boarders. Lately, I've been asking God why. Why is it that in the comfort of my home I continue to long for the uncomfortable hot, dirty, and rugged. I always thought that perhaps it was a "calling" that was yet to be fulfilled. But even recently, though I feel very called to the ministries we are pursuing, I continue to feel emptiness in my heart.
Today I was challenged and surprised with God's response to my restless spirit. My heavenly Father loving reminded me that it wasn't the smell, or the heat, or the poverty, or the people, or even the language that I missed, it was His presence.

It was among the orphans in Honduras where GOD became all sufficient.

It was during the car wreck in mountains of Guamaca where GOD was the only healer.

It is was for the missionary family in Jaco (with two little children) that GOD was the only source of protection.

It was during my times of loneliness and fear that GOD was my comfort.

I realized that I it wasn't the people, culture, or events of the mission field that I was missing. It was the ALL CONSUMING PRESENCE OF GOD.
Here in America....

When I am lonely I reach out to a friend on Facebook.
When I fear protection I lock my door and carry my cell phone.
When I need healing I go to a doctor.
When I am lacking, I work harder.

This is the scripture that God laid on my heart:
"You will seek and find me when you seek me with all of your heart." Jeremiah 29:12.

Although I have everything I need here in this country I long to depend on God the way that the mission field required me to do. I long seek HIM first before I seek out any other solution.

Pray that God would begin a new work in my heart.

Friends, Family and Fun=Fall Break

2009-10-11T17:18:00.000-07:00

My fall break is only two days. Not really much of a break, but it was enough to allow me not to think about homework for an entire weekend (almost). It is also really awesome because I got to spend some quality time with my sister while she was home for her break! This weekend was very eventful and lots of fun. Matthew and I had a special date night Friday night. Saturday we got to see Matthew's nephew play soccer. He DOMINATED in his game, scoring ALL 4 of the team's goals, and winning his 3rd medal. He's 9, but already a super star. Check out the picture if you don't believe me!

Saturday night at Church in Motion Matthew and I taught the "tweens" class. They are full of energy but also excited about learning the Bible. It will be fun to see how God works in these kid's lives. After church, we had our first official "Game Night" at our house. The best part was my BFF Lara, sister Bekah, and practically brother Jacob ALL got to come. So fun!

Today we had a great workout at the gym and relaxed around the house. I am getting much better a cooking meals and cleaning. Just gotta work at it! I Love these kinds of weekends to rest and enjoy friends, family, and my wonderful husband. So blessed! :)

For your entertainment...

2009-10-06T18:17:00.000-07:00

Today I babysat two boys (6 and 4). We went on a very long hike to the top of their neighborhood. At this height all the houses were gigantic and there were very few cars on the road.
All of the sudden we see a car come through the gate. It had a small flashing yellow light attached to the top. The 6 year-old says, "I know what this is..." and proceeds to hold both his hands up in the air. The four year-old does the same. They stand stiff holding their hand up in the air for about a minute. The MAIL man waves and keeps driving. The six year old says, "Oh, I thought it was the cops...." and keeps on walking... haha.

Fall

2009-10-02T10:10:00.001-07:00

Loving this weather lately. I love all the activities that come with Fall. Pumpkin carving, corn mazes, football games. SO FUN!
I am, however, not loving the insane about of school work that just got dumped on my plate for this weekend. I have one take home exam (consisting of two 4 page essays), one take home essay in Spanish, and two non-take home tests to study for.
All for next week! So I am bracing myself and praying for what is starting to look like a pretty crazy weekend.
Matthew just got a bonus from his boss for getting a server working. I am so proud of him. He is really gifted and such a hard worker! We also got a membership to Sam's Club. Which I am excited about if for no other reason than buying toilet paper in bulk. We are hoping to go out to dinner to celebrate!
Saturday I am taking a mock GRE. The exam I am totally dreading. It's 2.5 hours long and supposedly will predicted how well you will do in Grad school. Like the SAT for higher education. Then, we are going to see my sister's softball game. I am really excited about this! She LOVES softball and I LOVE cheering her on! Saturday night we have church.
And Sunday hopefully I can rest. A little. maybe?

Please pray for our neighbors--We are working on building relationships with them and to share with them Christ's love. God has placed us in our neighborhood for a reason. I am hoping to see some LIVES CHANGED!!

Our Home.

2009-09-30T17:29:00.000-07:00

I am going to post a few pictures of our little apartment soon. I love it. I also love all the weird little quirks that come along with it (which I will share briefly). But mostly I love the fact that it is the first place that Matthew and I have ever called "home" together which will always be special to me.
Here are a few random things that might make you smile about our very first home:
1. We have cats EVERYWHERE. One cat, is our "neighbor cat" that belongs to our next door neighbor. The other cats are raggamuffins that come and go, and eat the food of "neighbor cat." One morning I was getting ready to heat up some food in the microwave and to my suprise I see 3 cats just starting at me from the other side of our back door. It was hillarious.
2. We have an awesome "Entertainment system" (courtsey of Matthew's brother) and also a good size TV (courtsey of Jacob). A few things that I love about entertainment system. First, is that I have 2 picture fames sitting on top that actually look really good, except for that fact that they still have the picture of the model bride and grooms inside the frame, not Matthew and I. I am hoping to fix that soon. The second thing I love is the unity sand from on wedding, and a little purple decoration "tree" that I put inside of it. It really looks creative, and it remind me of the beautiful day that we became one. The last thing I love is that our entertainment system in brown and our couch is black. A fashion expert might tell you that these two colors "clash" but we have been surpised by how versital our black and brown living room has been.
3. I love our Bathroom. I feel like it was my own little project area of the house. I put together (with my bare hands and Matthew's help) a really cute self that goes over our toilet. A perfect space saver. I bought, on accident, the prefect matching shower curtain. Brown and light blue. Added a soft brown rug, a matching storage basket and BAM! You have yourself a beautiful bathroom.

Those are three for now. I'm sure I'll think of more things. I guess the thing I love most is having my wonderful husband with me here! Happy 2 months to us!

The Call

2009-09-19T18:26:00.000-07:00

Lately, our lives seem busier than ever! Being married hasn't slowed things down one bit. It has, however, caused me to realize a few things that I hadn't considered before.
1. It's o.k. to say "no" to a good thing for the sake of a better thing.
God desires us to have relationships, first with him and then with others. TIME is an essential element to strong relationships. I have found that the more time I put towards doing "good activities" the less time I have to spend with God, my husband, my friends, or the lost. I have to say no to "good things" in order to make room for the BEST THING (i.e. those things which God has clearly called me to.)

2. It is important to know your call and stay focused on fulfilling it.
As a wife I am called to come along-side my husband and support him.
As a Christian I am called to serve God and tell others about His love.
As a human I am called to relationships with others.

HOW I WE/I AM CURRENTLY FULFILLING THESE CALLINGS:
As a wife, I am learning each a every day how to better love, respect and encourage Matthew. This, like most things, takes time and patience. I find that the more time we spend together. The better I understand his needs. TIME is so essential!

As Christian Matthew and I have been serving the Church in various capacities for a long time. We believe strongly that God has a special call on our lives. We feel that he has used past experience to allow to to serve in a new capacity for this period of out lives. We feel God has called us to serve to advance his kingdom through Church in Motion. We are making a year long commitment to help this church plant get up and running in the Asheville. Currently the church meets on Saturday nights at 7pm in the sanctuary of Cornerstone Church on 12 South French Broad St. I hope this will be a avenue for many who have never experienced God's love to find something that will change their lives as well as their eternity.

As a human and as a woman I am called to relationships. I have started attending a Wednesday morning Bible study called Poiema at Biltmore Baptist Church. The relationships that I have developed have encouraged, challenged, and inspired. I believe these types of relationships are ESSENTIAL for Christians especially those who are serving in any capacity. They keep me accountable and remind me of God's unique and wonderful purpose for my life. Along with this study, I have many beautiful friends who encourage me with a desire to see know God and understand his grace in my life in a new a deeper way. I love having random phone calls, lunch dates, and meeting with these ladies because I always feel more challenged, inspired and re-energized!

So there you have it. My callings. The things that I find important. Although there are many opportunities to do GOOD things. There are only 24 hours in a day. It is important to know your priorities so that the BEST things don't get neglected in the business of everyday life.

Pictures

2009-09-15T05:34:00.000-07:00

We've gotten back half of our wedding pictures! They are wonderful. Now I'm just going to decided how I want to document them. I thought about doing a scapbook, but as I am notorious for leaving projects unfinished I think I will probably do a big online scrapbook. Either from Creative Memories or Shutterfly. Any other suggestions?

I should be studying.

2009-09-07T14:29:00.001-07:00

I spend an hour outside today throwing a Frisbee with Matthew. Probably the best part of my day!
It reminded me of the blog "Things White People Like." I read a post that make me laugh hysterically. I guess I am whiter then I would truly like to admit.

Cha-Cha-Cha-Changes

2009-09-01T05:39:00.000-07:00

I LOVE changes. It's weird, I know. I always get excited about the prospect of the unknown and the ability to create something better than what I am currently experiencing.
Today is my one month wedding anniversary! Obviously, I have had lots of changes to get used to. (Not least of which, is using the word "we" instead of "I"). My new role as wife as been an adventure which lots of changes. From moving out of my parents house, to learning how to make dinners several nights a week I have been learning A LOT. I have also laughed a lot. My month of marriage has been like one giant sleepover, where everyday is better than the day before. Some people might say that is unrealistic and once the "newness" wears off we'll be like an "old married couple." No thanks. I prefer to think that everyday I get to know my husband better we will love each other more. I believe that's how God created marriage in the first place. So maybe I'm an idealist about the future, but I know that right now in this moment, I am the happiest I have ever been.

I am taking 3 fairly easy classes this semester and I am SO thankful. I treasure all the time I get to spend with Matthew, and these first few weeks it has been so nice to have so much time together. Two out of three of my classes have nothing to do with my major and are simply fulfilling my Liberal Studies requirement. Still, they are very interesting and I really enjoying learning so I am thankful for the time I get to be in school.

So that's my mini update for now.

In honor of all my new changes I have created a new blog layout. Unfortunately during that process I lost all my other blogs followings. So if you happen to read this please comment on my blog so that I can find you and add you to my blog list.
Thanks. Hope your day is beautiful!

A princess story

2009-06-21T20:46:00.000-07:00

I have never met a little girl under the age of 5 who was not able to identify herself fully as a princess. She knows her place and takes it with full confidence. Sadly, most of these 5 year-old girls grow up and are quickly dethroned of their royal inheritance. They are bombarded with messages that reiterate the lie that they must earn their crown and establish their own kingdom. They enter into an endless cycle of striving.
The 13 year-old strives for acceptance. The 15 year-old strives for attention. The 18 year-old strives for affection. The 21 year-old strives for success. As she grows she remains hopeful that somewhere-out-there is a prince who is waiting to rescue her.
It seems that our would-be-princess has forgotten who she once was: That five-year-old girl who once twirled around her Father’s castle. She never worried with the placement of her hair or the wrinkle in her dress. She was the princess. She didn’t need attention, affection, success, or a prince to remind her of that.

Dear princess,
Come home. You’re castle is waiting. You’re gown is ready to dance.
I love you exactly the way you are.
I’ve made up for your every failure.
I’ve covered you’re every mistake.
You are perfect in my eyes.
There’s nothing you can do that disappoints me.
In fact, I knew every choice you’d ever make and I loved you anyway.
Princess, run home. You are worth more to me than you will ever know.
Give me your worries to me. Nothing is too heavy for me to carry.
It’s time for you to rest. Where your heart feels empty allow me to fill it.
Be confident because my love never ends.
Be secure because you were created for a purpose.
Be alive because I gave my life for you.

Your Father
–The King