Wednesday, January 27, 2010

Adorable Alert

Ever since Monday I haven't been able to stop smiling whenever I think about my Monday night babysitting.

I was trying to rush through bed time story books so I could get them to bed at least close to the time their bedtime One of the books they picked out was veggie tales. The story was about a boy who was scared of the dark and was couldn't go to sleep. So I start reading normally about how the little vegetable boy is scared of being in his dark room alone. I thought it would be just like any other story. But we get to about the fourth page and the two little boys start bursting out singing along with me as I read the story. First the youngest then the oldest and pretty soon I picked up the tune and was singing

right along with them!

So tonight when I had a moment of being totally overwhelmed by school work I took a youtube break and looked up the boogieman song. I love it! Maybe you'll enjoy it too. I am reminded to never take for granted the moments when you experience the simple and joyful faith of a child.

Friday, January 22, 2010

Last Semester

I can't believe I've finally made it to my very last semester of college. The past few weeks I have imageexperienced some of the weirdest and most confusing self-dialogues I’ve ever had about my own future. I think God has a very funny way of dealing with my "be-in-control" tendencies which usually involves my complete loss of control. And, in case you’re wondering yes, I’ve reached that stage. And yes, it’s just as awkward and strange as you might imagine. But again, I am reminded of God’s Word:

Many are the plans in a man's heart, but it is the LORD's purpose that prevails. Proverbs 19:21
As I look back on my life I find that the points where I have had to surrender my own plans have been the exact moments when God  grew my character and advance me the place that he has purposed for me. So, although I feel stuck, I am in fact moving “full-speed-ahead” to the perfect place that God has for me.
Godspeed to me and to you! (I like that word. Not totally sure what it means but it made a nice pun).

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

What would you do....

What would you do if...
                         You weren't afraid to fail?
                         You had nothing to lose?
                         You had nothing to fear?

I find that the closer I am to hitting the real-world (aka: life post college) the more I allow fear to enter my decision-making process. What if I'm not good enough? Or there aren't jobs available? What if I waste my money or time pursuing something that I will be unfulfilling.

So here's a little secrete that I've learned and am going to remind myself of: God doesn't create failures or losers. Nope, my God has a purpose for my life, otherwise I would not be breathing oxygen on this earth.  Furthermore, I need not be afraid because he knows where I've been and where I'm  headed.
So, I'm moving boldly into God's freedom. The freedom from fear and failure and the assurance that God loves me and have a purpose for me.

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Favorite books on marriage…..

I love to read. I think I love to read so much because I am a perpetual student and I love to learn I’m not the type of person that can pick up a fantasy book and spend the entire day absorbed in it, but give me a book where I can learn something that is applicable to my life and I will be completely content. Marriage book have been piling up on my shelves recently (for obvious reasons). The subject of marriage fascinates me and since I am going to spend the rest of my life as a wife I think it’s a pretty good idea to get some tips from the experts. So here’s a list of a few of my favorites.

My Favorite Books on Marriage:

1.  God on Sex, Daniel Akin image
My husband and I read this book together before we got married. Essentially it is a study of the book of Song of Solomon. Dr. Akin does a great job of walking through the book detail by detail. He parallels the study of the two lovers in Song of Solomon to some modern day trends. And gives very practical and Biblically based advice for a healthy marriage.
Function: Great tool for studying the Bible as a couple.


2. Power of a Praying Wife, Stormie Omartianimage
Although this book is less about marriage its self than it is about being a wife I think   Stormie Omartian’s core message is timeless: We can never under estimate the how important prayer is within a marriage relationship. Again, this book is extremely practical. At the end of each chapter she offers prayer points to pray over your spouse based on the topic that she covers. The chapters are short and easy to read. About all, I think this book really forces you to correct a negative/ selfish attitude. After all, it is very difficult to lift your spouse up in prayer if you find yourself holding grudges or angry. 
Function: A wonderful book for wives wanting to improve their prayer life.




3. Sheet Music, Kevin Leman image
When I first heard the concept of Dr. Leman’s book Sheet Music my only thought was, “FINALLY!” Finally a Christian book that tackles the tough and sometimes intimidating questions that many Christian couples have about sex. His approach is tactful and respectful but make no mistake, he doesn’t hold any thing back. This is a great book for engaged couples and really helps to establish sexual expectations.
Function: For married couples with questions about intimacy. For engaged couples who want to know what to expect.
Function: Answers to some of the most taboo marriage questions.



4. Love and Respect, Dr. Emmerson Eggerichsimage 
To be honest, this books definitely isn’t the easiest of reads. It is at times repetitive and hard to follow but I think the main ideas are excellent and its a great book to use as a resource. Dr. Eggerichs clearly explains what he calls  “The Crazy Cycle” and presents ways for both husbands and wives from promoting an unhealthy cycle in their own marriages.
Function: I great resource for understanding the needs of both men and women.

5. For Men Only & For Women Only, Shaunti  Feldhahn image
Shaunti Feldhahn’s books come in two different editions, one for women and one for women. They are easy to read despite the highly statistical nature of the data collected. Feldhahn content is based on men’s reponses to a range of questions in survey format. I have only read the For Women Only version (for obvious reasons) but what I like about this book is instead of trying to explain the men’s answers Feldhahn lets the men speak for themselves through the data as well as through direct quotes. Many of the responses are in fact quite surprising. For me, It a great reminder that despite their though exterior our spouses need us more than they might ever let us know. I also found that this book helped me understand how to appropriately interact with the opposite sex without sending the wrong signals. A very important skill for anyone man or woman.
Function: A fun book and important book for EVERYONE who had EVER had to interact with the opposite sex, even if it’s not in a marriage relationship.

 

And, incase your wondering here are a few that are on my list to read next:

1. Love & War, John and Stasi Eldredge
2. When Sinners Say “I Do,” Dave Harvey
3. Love that Lasts, Gary Ricucci

Tuesday, January 5, 2010

Free household budget spreadsheets

Nothing ruins a relationship faster than a drained bank account. These are wonderful resource to help get your marriage off to the right start.  I also highly not only a household budget spreadsheet but a wedding budget spreadsheet as well (you don’t realize how quickly those strands of ribbon add up until you map it out). If you are cringing just looking at the word “budget” check out the links at the end of this article they will help you get a better idea of what a budget is and how to use it for your benefit.

by Bob on September 10, 2008


(This article is posted with permission from Christian Personal Finance)
A reader recently asked me if I knew of any good and free budgeting spreadsheets. Personally, I love Excel and get a kick out of building spreadsheets, but I know not everyone is as interested in that as I am.
About the spreadsheets
Each one of the sheets below are free and are designed to be used with Excel, but will more than likely work if you use OpenOffice (basically a free version of Microsoft Office). Some may also work with Google Docs, but I have had bad luck with some of my imports into Google Docs.
Budgeting Software:
  • YNAB Pro – YNAB is a software that is dedicated specifically to budgeting and it does it well.
  • Mvelopes Budgeting System – If you like the envelope system of budgeting – this is it, only with virtual envelopes that you manage online.
Each of the budgeting sheets below have their own strengths and weaknesses, so give try them out, see what works, and make tweaks and changes if necessary. If you have a spreadsheet that you have built or have found (that is free to distribute) please provide a link to it in the comments below.
Since we are talking about free spreadsheets, I will tell you about two I built and use. They aren’t necessarily for budgeting, but they help keep our finances organized.
  • FLOP (Financial Life on One Page) – Basically my balance sheet to calculate my Net Worth, keeps track of account numbers, and other information about all my financial accounts.
  • Bill Payment Schedule – I pay my bills twice a month. I use this sheet to make sure everything balances and gets paid at the right time.
If you are just getting started budgeting, I suggest reading this article first: How to make a budget. Once you are finished, come back to this article and you can download one of these sheets.

Household budgeting Spreadsheets

Here are all the personal budgeting templates listed in no particular order.
Personal budgeting spreadsheet
A good and simple budget spreadsheet. The user has to enter each purchase and details in order to get full and accurate tracking of expenses.
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Household budget template
Allows you to put in each item you purchase and the item’s category. It will then add up and compare the total amount spent with the amount budgeted.
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Personal Budget monthly spreadsheet
This one is good if you are trying to add up income and expenses and find the difference between the two.
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Family Budget planner
This one allows you to look at the whole year’s expenses and income with each month being a column in the sheet.
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Wedding Budget Template
This sheet provides suggestions on how much you should spend on each item in the wedding. It also will help you think of expenses you might not have thought of.
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GLBL Budget Spreadsheet
Simple it is different than most because it works by pay period, rather than by month.
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Debt Reduction spreadsheet
This is a really cool spreadsheet that helps you decide the best method for paying down your debts. It allows you to create a debt reduction schedule based on the debt-snowball method. The first page is a basic calculator for you to enter your information, choose your total monthly payment, and see a summary of the results based your debt reduction strategy. The second page is a printable payment schedule to help you keep track of your progress.
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Related articles: How to make a budget and why budgeting is like baking cookies.
Christian Personal Finance does a wonderful job explaining the world of finances and budgets.

Monday, January 4, 2010

Newlywed for a year?

    My husband and I were married just over 6 months ago. Honestly seems like only a few short weeks have passed by. Someone recently mentioned to me newly wedthat the term “newly-wed” will only apply to our relationship status for another 6 months. Hey, wait a minute! Who put a time limit on being a newly wed? As far as I’m concerned I want to be a newlywed for LIFE. Sure, I realize that life won’t always be as perfect as it was on our honeymoon: no obligations, no stress, and an unlimited supply of gourmet food (made by someone else). But, I would like to propose that it is possible to have a meaningful, fulfilling and exciting relationship far beyond the allotted one year time period. 
      Here are a few words that I found to be essential in my relationship with my husband thus far. I hope to elaborate on this words in later posts but for now here they are:

                 patience                                     truth

Laughter                        admiration                               appreciation                                        

                love         unity        trust  

                                 kindness

faithfulness                       respect

                                selflessness        grace
                                        
    forgiveness               

 

Let me know what words are important to you.

Saturday, January 2, 2010

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